Weddings are a time to experience beauty, flawless memories, and most importantly- witness two people's undying love for each other as they unite. While all of this sounds like a fairytale waiting to come true for each of us, in all reality, 99% of brides spend most of their lives dreaming of their wedding day to come, only to realize how much work it actually is to prepare, especially if they are embarking upon planning their own wedding. We all hear the horror stories of "Bridezillas" and at times, even encounter a few, but until you are a bride-to-be, it is hard to understand the amount of pressure they are under with having to plan their own wedding day.
The first headache brides fall upon is vendors, especially if they are not using a wedding planner. Weddings are expensive and become an investment, when all is said and done. From start to finish, you are expensing something in every direction. Flowers, table decorations, bridal party gifts, entertainment, catering, cake, beverages, photographers, and the venue (just a few to start with) all add up in the end and can become very frustrating if you are not aware of what is considered reasonable pricing in the wedding industry. The best thing to do is to conduct research. Ask friends and family for personal referrals and make a list. Visit vendors and get a feel for their style and estimated pricing. After you have done your footwork, sit down and look at all of your options and only then, decide, based on which vendors will best fit the style you have for your theme, while keeping your budget in perspective.
Grooms can also contribute to occasional headaches. While this might not be an intentional act on their behalf, it is well known that men take a backseat when it comes to planning events, especially weddings. This can be frustrating to several brides because they cannot interact with their soon-to-be husbands in the manner they would with a specialist, who understands their planning needs. Grooms take part in minor details, but nine out of ten times, they leave the major decisions up to their brides. Do not hesitate, brides, to reach out for additional help from friends, family members, and even some of your vendors. They are all there to help make this event as memorable as possible and you may be super woman, but even she needs a power booster at times to get through it all.
Last but not least, the day of coordination can lead to additional headaches, if not anxiety or a total meltdown. The best thing to do in the event that you do not have a wedding planner is to reach out to your venue. Venues take great pride in hosting your wedding day and they want to make sure it is as flawless as possible. It is okay to have family and friends help with minor details; however, you want to avoid taking away from their experience on your wedding day as well. Take the time to talk to your venue from the very start about the day of coordination and pricing to make sure your event goes as smoothly as possible, without additional stresses on you or your loved ones.
As you can see, planning can be a full-time job for those who are new to the experience. If you take the time to research, sympathize, and ask for help when needed, your special day will less likely result in headaches or anxiety-filled moments. If you do not plan on using a wedding planner, at the very least, reach out to your venue to see what they offer to help your dreams come true. Remember: your wedding day is solely about you and your groom. Enjoy the moments creating it.
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